Five ways to make you happy at work

Although many people like their careers, when they mention their current jobs, their faces will still turn cloudy. The company, colleagues and the work that must be completed every day may create various conflicts for us, and even make people fall into painful relationships. If this negative emotion is long-term, it will corrode our mood.

Nowadays, the decompression methods and yoga exercises in management books can no longer meet people's more needs. How to get out of this state? Can we find a peaceful relationship in the office? How to make your mouth smile from your heart when working? Here are the solutions proposed by experts:

Happiness magic weapon 1. Don't let work become all

Dominique Meda, a French sociologist, said: "We must stop the idea of 'work is everything'." She stressed that building a peaceful relationship in work, but also admitted that it is not easy to do this in reality, because we are all convinced that "no work, no food".

Haina, a 27-year-old beauty product brand manager, "I also hope that life can not be equated with 'making money' as suggested in many psychological self-help books. But at work, I am still like a rabbit that never stops. Moreover, I can feel the vague happiness from it!"

Patrick Amar, a French psychological expert, said: This kind of ambivalence is not surprising. The original work is the product of pain and achievement closely intertwined. But in real life, the more diverse your self-worth is, the easier it is to feel happy.

In response, Patricia Linville, a psychologist at Yale University in the United States, suggested: "When we encounter setbacks and setbacks in our work, we need to recover in other ways. If the sense of achievement only comes from work, then the dissatisfaction in work is more likely to affect our emotions. Keeping an appropriate distance from work and establishing a peaceful relationship is precisely to feel happy in work."

Happiness magic weapon 2. Show your good mood

In many cases, the root cause of the difficulty in working is the dull working atmosphere. Benjamin Sahler, a French psychologist, investigated many enterprises and found that many companies have simple environments, comfortable air conditioners and soft carpets, but the atmosphere is suffocating.

A good working atmosphere requires everyone's efforts, such as conversation, good mood, sense of humor, and snacks brought by daily exchange, which can be the beginning of happiness. Wang Huilin, the psychological counseling center of Beijing University of Aeronautics and Astronautics, said: "Close and stable interpersonal relationship is the most important factor for happiness. Since we can find happiness when we are with relatives and friends, why should we give up this happiness at work?"

Of course, this does not make us a cuddle bear in the office, nor does it make us over-invest in our colleagues. Experts suggest that laughter can bring psychological wonders. Colleagues should have more fun together. Laughter is always the best way to turn an enemy into a friend. It is very negative to wait for others to show their kindness.

Happiness magic weapon 3. Express your needs

Choose a familiar and simple song, such as "Happy birthday to you". Beat time on the table and let friends guess. Most people would think that the probability of guessing correctly is at least 50%, while in fact, only 2.5%. Usually people think that the listener's mind presents all the information of the song. In fact, what the other person hears is just a meaningless click.

One of the most annoying situations at work is that the boss doesn't seem to realize that we need help at all. Don't think your boss should know what you think. The above test shows that.

"If there is any objection to the boss's requirements, most people will choose to be silent and avoid conflict." Du Shuang, a global career planner, said: "People are worried that expressing dissatisfaction will destroy the relationship with their boss, damage their own interests, or make the conflict impossible to end. But there are many grievances that cannot be dismissed while enduring." Patrick Amar, a French psychological expert, stressed: "As long as necessary, we should be polite and frank in expressing our ideas. Unless the boss is a pervert sadist, frank expression will not make things worse."

Of course, we must distinguish between the difficulties that "cannot speak" are real and those that are only our imagination. Many times, it is ourselves who set obstacles for ourselves. So before talking to the boss, make sure that things are really beyond your own capabilities. Whether it's asking for extra help or letting your boss understand your efforts, this is true.

Perhaps the worst case is that stress and self-control become a habit, and we all forget that we still have needs. "We should learn to pay attention to our inner feelings and listen to the voice of our body and mind," said Wang Huilin, a psychologist. "When we have headache, irritability, nausea, loss of appetite or overeating, it may be time to talk to our boss."

Happiness magic weapon 4. Don't put too much emotion into the company

"Many times, employees are in an emotional logic", Jean-Claude Liaudet, a psychoanalyst, said: "That is, giving and receiving must be equal. We give, and then expect our own giving to be appreciated. This idea is wrong!" He thought: "People always let the experience of family life affect their relationship with the company. For example, they always seek the approval of their parents from their boss. In psychology, this is' empathy '." Let's try another way of "workplace empathy". Psychologist Benjamin Sahler suggested: "Of course, we can't lock our emotions in the locker room at work, so it's better to face the work with mature emotions!" How to do it? To sum up, mature positioning is: tight but independent.

Happiness magic weapon 5. Externalize the inner conflict

"Many people think that conflict is risky and foolish." Du Shuang, a global career planner, said: "This is because the Oriental culture stresses many rules and urges people to minimize offending. But in fact, we should learn to express internal and external consistency." If the company and personal interests conflict, it is not a good way to just weigh in the heart repeatedly and feel anxious. Jean-Claude Riorday said: "The inner conflict in us is usually manifested as ulcers and depression. When we decide to fight against the shackles of our body, we can get back to health. If we open our mind, we can put ourselves out of the conflict. This process may cause pain, but it is a healthier way." In fact, endless inner conflict has another serious hazard. "Escaping from problems will lose the opportunity to solve problems and promote spiritual growth," said Wang Huilin, a psychologist.

Therefore, "only complaining and not acting is childish behavior!" Action is an effective way to relieve anxiety. Constructive relief can be achieved in more interesting ways. It is certainly not easy to find happiness in work. Not everyone can get what they want. We certainly hope that the company will provide more psychological support for employees. Nevertheless, psychological expert Patrick Amar still warned us: "Everyone should be responsible for their emotions at work."