Have real friends in the workplace? You lose if you believe

Do you believe there will be real friends in the workplace?

I

Student M, as a newcomer to the workplace, suddenly encountered the "downward pressure" of the HR manager half a year ago.

One morning, the HR manager, M and the general manager were discussing a matter in the office. Suddenly, the HR manager turned to M and said, "Did you go out this morning and didn't fight with your boyfriend?"

M was stunned and didn't know how to answer.

"How do you know about her quarrel with her boyfriend?" the general manager asked the personnel manager.

"Hey, it's nothing serious. The little girl had a conflict with the salesperson in the sales department two days ago. She told me that she was in a bad mood because she went out in the morning and had a fight with her boyfriend, so she quarreled with the salesperson." The HR manager said leisurely.

M was completely confused, and she hastily explained: "Nothing, my boyfriend and I quarreled on the same day as the salesperson."

The general manager seemed to suddenly remember something, and said to M with a heavy heart, "You are now serving as a cashier in the company. Although it is not very impressive, it is a very important position in the company. Usually, you should pay more attention to the attitude of dealing with all departments, and not be emotional. Not a few people have reported that you always like to bring personal emotions into the work. If you do this next time, I will have to consider other candidates."

M blushed as if she had been greatly wronged. She looked at the HR manager and casually smiled at Founder.

II

Once upon a time, just when M entered the company, the HR manager also showed her sincerity and enthusiasm, and explained some hidden rules of the workplace to M like a big sister, and told M to beware of the people in the department. If there is anything inconvenient to communicate with the department leader, you can talk to her.

So M naively thought that the HR manager was a trustworthy big sister, and told her all the troubles she encountered in her daily life in detail. Unexpectedly, the HR manager shook up his quarrel with his boyfriend in front of the general manager. Not only that, but also connected this matter with another irrelevant matter, which made her speechless.

"Teacher, what should I do? I really feel that I have been trapped. I feel that I can't do it anymore. Do you want to resign?" That day, I received a message from M.

What should I do?

If she chooses to leave at this time, it is bound to be in the mind of the personnel manager, who must have an unknown motive to deal with a new comer in the workplace.

"At present, there are three things you need to do. The first is to admit your mistakes and show your determination to repent to the general manager, even if you are framed, because in the general manager's mind, this is an ironclad fact; the second is to say less and do more from now on, and avoid topics involving sensitive work or personal privacy properly; the third is to be more careful in doing things and pay more attention to the expense report of the personnel manager when collecting and paying Sales, see if there are any doubts. " I replied.

According to my suggestion, M took the initiative to find the general manager the next day to admit that he was sometimes too emotional. After careful reflection, he said that he would try to correct it in the future; Next, she still said hello to the HR manager and other colleagues on the surface, but there was nothing more than work.

III

Since then, all kinds of rumors have come to M again. Some people say that the little girl is a sullen gourd, others say that the little girl pretends to be tall and cold, and some people surmise whether she is lovelorn, and so on.

M ignored them and continued to work steadfastly, and did a good job in the collection, payment and recording of each account.

One day, she brought a bunch of reimbursement forms from the general manager. One of them was the HR manager's. The attachment behind the reimbursement form was very strange. It was a handwritten invoice. At first glance, there was nothing wrong with it. But M always felt that the invoice seemed familiar. She identified it carefully and found that there was a missing piece in the upper left corner of the invoice. She was suddenly aroused, This is not the invoice that has been reimbursed before. Now it will be reimbursed again? She checked her cash journal, found a similar business before, took out the voucher and turned it over, and sure enough, the attachment at the back suddenly disappeared.

She recalled that a week ago, the HR manager asked the accountant for a voucher to check the expenses of the HR department. Fortunately, the financial data borrowed were registered, so M did not hesitate to refuse to pay the HR manager, and took the data to the General Manager's office to truthfully report the doubtful points.

The general manager attached great importance to this matter, so he found a firm to conduct an audit of the company, focusing on the reimbursement matters of the personnel manager, and found that in the past few years, the personnel manager had done everything in the reimbursement by taking advantage of the leadership's lax audit and the cashier's failure to fulfill his duties. After the matter was found out, the general manager asked the personnel manager to compensate for the company's losses and dismiss him.

The HR manager came to M the day before he left and said, do you know why I sold your privacy and wanted to replace you? Just because I saw that you had a dispute with the salesperson over an unqualified invoice, I thought you might not be very good at talking. As expected, now I am in your hands.

IV

After this incident, M has a more calm and rational understanding of the workplace.

She summarized the following two points:

First, there are no real friends in the workplace, only interests.

She later found that the best relationship seemed fragile in front of interests. It was so good that two people who could not wear a pair of pants could fight with each other for their own interests. So the saying that "the workplace is like a battlefield" is absolutely true.

Second, where there are people, there is the Jianghu. You should never imagine that you can stay away from right and wrong.

There is a truth that around you, you can choose your friends, but not your colleagues.

Many people who are not accustomed to the workplace struggle jump to and fro, and finally find themselves jumping from one place of right and wrong to another. On the surface, the people you face are different, but the strange thing is that the things you experience are always the same.

Since we can't avoid it, we should actively deal with it. If the time is not ripe, we should learn to endure and quietly accumulate strength.

I nodded and then added two more points.

Third, the reason for jealousy is that it does not widen the real gap. Only by working hard and making it difficult to surpass, can jealousy dissipate.

The most common place of workplace struggle is at the grass-roots level. Because of the limited resources, everyone is desperate to climb up by all means. However, stepping on his comrades-in-arms will not last. Just as most people who are good at fighting will not take the idea of the position of general manager, the higher your position is, the more irreplaceable you can be, and finally get rid of jealousy.

Fourth, who are you helping?

As for you and me who live in the workplace, our biggest customer is not others but the boss. Our colleagues and we are just partners. It is not right to favor either side. So instead of thinking about how to stand in line and form cliques, it is better to improve the business level and ability alone. One day when you are strong enough, you will naturally be reused.

Like Wu Danru's words, there is no permanent pain unless you remind yourself of it every day.

One day you will find that the person you loved and hated is a passer-by in your life after all, and only you are your friend who has been with you for the longest time.